Today I am thinking about how circumstances change, and how it is always a good idea to try again.  Yes, I mean even after you think the Universe has spoken its last words on the subject, you can try again.

So we went back to the Horseshoe Casino this week, just to see if all that negativity that we felt the last time was still in place.  Happily, for me it was not.  The energy for me was mellow, relaxed, welcoming.  But for THWAM (The Husband Who Adores Me) it was miserable.  Oh dear.  He will not be going back.  Ever.  Period.

So this little drama forces us to consider that although we’ve been a  married couple for more than four decades, we are not doomed to speak alike, look alike, or think alike after all.  We are suddenly reminded that we are not one person, but still two very different persons.  Even though love, shared life experiences, and time have blended us in so many ways, we remain individuals.  It’s likely that this is good news, but still it’s a little disconcerting.

I love the Horseshoe and I love playing the slots.  My beloved does not.  Should I insist he go with me anyway?  Of course not.  Should I give up something I enjoy a great deal, just because he doesn’t?  My answer is of course not.

Revelation:  I can go alone and have a great time.  And I plan to do exactly that.  Did I ask permission of my beloved?  Of course not, but I’m glad he says he’s fine with it.

In case you’re wondering, no, I don’t win much.  It’s not about money, it’s just about having a good time.  I’m careful to save up, careful that I’m responsible enough not to put us in any financial bind, or anything like that.  Twenty-four hours at the casino is just fun for me, a chance to step completely out of my normal existence for just a little while.  It’s re-CREATION. 

And apparently the Universe no longer objects.  I’m so glad that I tried again.

Perhaps there will be more opportunities for us to express our individuality, and we will welcome them. Perhaps rejoicing in our difference will enrich our profound togetherness.

Think about that.

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One should never know too precisely whom one has married.  Friedrich Nietzsche

A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers.  Robert Quillen

Let there be spaces in your togetherness.   Kahlil Gibran